Speaking the truth in love is not something to hide behind. We should not use harsh speech and say we do it in love. Be gracious in your speech. Remember, the tongue is full of every kind of evil and set on fire by hell. Do not be deluded thinking you are speaking in love when you are perpetuating judgement and driving others far from Me. Be on the lookout for how to genuinely communicate love to others. This will be painful for you. It involves death of flesh and the critical spirit. If you want others to see Christ, you must control your own tongue.
"Let your speech always be gracious, as though seasoned with salt, so you will know how you should respond to each person."
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