Let Him

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 I recently read The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. I gleaned quite a bit from reading it. The content reminded me of releasing co-dependency and being in life-coaching school. Mel boils everything down to a simple formula to let people act how they want to because we are not in control of them anyway. In fact, our control may be harming them. The second part of the theory is, ”Let me.” You can see how this could be helpful, I’m sure. You can only act on what you are have control over, yourself. I choose my response and what I linger on. I choose grace or bitterness. It can be a true pivot point to not make pour decisions based on others actions. It is a masterclass in letting go. I say the phrases to myself often when I am tempted to dwell on hurtful things. Let them. Let me.

Of course, the theory isn’t condoning abuse or saying to let your kids run amuck. Those things are addressed in the book. There were also portions of the book that I didn’t agree with or thought could be harmful to people, but I understand her position. It made me think deeply about what I believe and what I encourage in others.

I kept feeling like there was a plot hole for those of us who operate from a vantage point of faith. 

Let them. 

Let me. 

Then what? 

I stumbled on the exact words during my devotion this morning. The only way to maintain the healing posture of God in these hard to navigate spaces… Let Him.

We allow space for God to speak. We remind ourselves that we have neither the power to rescue or save. We may sojourn in healing, but we cannot carry. When we realize that we have enabled or picked up a loved one, we simply take them to Jesus. Our need to fix is often from our need to be fixed. Let Him.

Let them.

Let me.

Let Him.

💚

added thoughts. 

There is a great section on supporting those who struggle with addiction in a truly loving way. Highly recommend. 

There are some rogue expletives. I tell you this for two reasons. I don’t want anyone upset at me because they listened to this in the car with their small child. Also, some words trigger and I want those who experience this to know what might be coming at them.

*Bibliotherapy is idea that there is healing power in reading literature. God used words to form the world. May beautiful words form you too. 

Steph Cherry | thebohotable.org

I let YOU.

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