Don't base your love for others on their performance. The trivial things you concentrate your righteousness are not helping anyone. Do away with your critical spirit and love someone. Love them through thick and thin. Love them through the messy parts of life and learn how you can become more like Me yourself. These petty differences are a way that you build walls so that you do not have to love and minister to others. Give more of yourself. Don't get distracted by the symptoms of a broken heart. Walk through them to the depths. I am in there. I am close to the broken hearted. Be there with Me.
"The LORD is near the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
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